How to make your woman reach orgasm frequently without the hassle of constantly coming up with new techniques. Here's a simple introduction. If you want to pursue a higher quality sex life, it can only be achieved through research and exploration with your partner.
“First, let me talk about a few things I hate about guys the most. Some guys never give girls oral sex but expect girls to blow them, or they just lick a bit to get it wet, or even spit on their hand, rub it on the pussy, and then insert when it's wet. Please, that wetness is saliva, not the natural love juices secreted by the girl. It's so inconsiderate. Even if you thrust for a long time, I find it hard to feel anything. First, psychologically it's uncomfortable; second, without some stimulation to the clitoris, the vagina's sensitivity isn't enough.
Many guys say their girlfriends don't like being licked or having their clitoris stimulated. The first reason is that girls feel it's dirty, a psychological factor. This requires a lot of communication or some coaxing. Many guys say girls don't want to blow you, but if you really make her feel good, she'll reciprocate.
If you only use penile thrusting, a girl will never orgasm. The best method is to thrust while using your hand to rub her clitoris, and when she's about to orgasm, speed up. After a while, she won't need your hand anymore because she's already orgasming, so stop rubbing the clitoris, otherwise she'll just feel pain. At this point, if the penis that has already been speeding up can accelerate further during her orgasm (how to tell if she's orgasming is simple: she'll moan loudly, her body will move involuntarily), that's her climaxing. At this moment, speed up rubbing her clitoris with your hand, while keeping the penile thrusting at a medium pace (to avoid ejaculating or losing strength). After she finishes orgasming, don't worry, she will automatically move your hand away. If you still haven't ejaculated, then speed up thrusting by 200%, guaranteed she'll moan louder and louder. So just using penile thrusting will never make her orgasm.
What I just described is one way to make a girl orgasm, guaranteed she'll fall in love with you. Another way is using your tongue to lick her clitoris. The licking method requires some technique. Here's the best one: lick upward from the vaginal opening to the clitoris, because the vaginal opening also has sensation, but to make her orgasm, focus the tongue's attack on the clitoris (adjust pressure yourself);
When licking the clitoris, don't go straight for it. If I immediately pull back the foreskin and lick the meatus, many guys would scream, right? Same thing, it's too sensitive. So first lick the left and right sides of the clitoris, occasionally sweeping over it. Watch out for teeth, or hold some saliva, cover the entire clitoris with your lips, and open and close like a fish with moist lips, or press your tongue on the clitoris, pressing rhythmically. Don't use the tip, use the flat of the tongue relaxed to lick (because I can only feel it, guys with actual hands-on experience please share). Regularly rub up and down the sides of the clitoris. It's strange, my right side is more sensitive than the left. When I masturbate, I always rub the right side of my clitoris with my hand, not directly on the clitoris.
You can ask your girlfriend to masturbate in front of you, and you masturbate for her to see, so you can understand where she feels good, because some things are hard to explain when asked.
I affirm that using the tongue to lick the clitoris can lead to orgasm, but just like a girl blowing a guy to completion with her mouth, it's quite tiring. But when a girl uses her hand to jerk a guy off or sucks him to orgasm with her mouth, which feels better?
I once met a tormentor who took 40 minutes to blow to completion. I swear my oral skills aren't bad. He's a weird person; he can thrust for two hours and still not ejaculate. According to him, in three years with his girlfriends, he only ejaculated three times just by thrusting into the pussy. He's big, on the basketball team, great stamina, but just can't finish. Doing it with him to the end is an endurance race, from comfortable to painful, to exhausted, to no sensation, super unfulfilling. So really, longer isn't always better. And it's boring. Toward the end, he said he was hungry and asked me to cook instant noodles, which cooled me off completely.
If your hands are free, please caress the breasts, or use the two-finger technique, but before inserting two fingers, use one finger to let the vagina get used to it. What I like most is when the guy licks while stirring his finger in the vagina like an egg beater. Or palm up, doing bicycle motion to stimulate the G-spot. The G-spot's sensitivity is beyond imagination; guys need to adjust finger pressure.
When the clitoris is aroused, the entire vaginal opening becomes sensitive. At this point, you can reduce stimulation to avoid overwhelming the girl, cover the vaginal opening with your palm and vibrate. This kind of stimulation can also make me squirt.
Or rub the little brother at the entrance, especially when the guy is about to cum, pull out and do this. It won't make the girl think you're about to finish, and it can make her very comfortable.
Many say girls will say stop. I've thought about many reasons. Basically, I know most girls want to pee when orgasming, or go pee after. These girls might have the ability to squirt, but the key is they can't get through that overly sensitive feeling, or think they need to pee and hold it back. This feeling might be like a guy with an erection wanting to pee but can't.
That feeling might be uncomfortable for those who can't handle it, just like some guys feel pain when touching the little brother after finishing, while others don't.
So when a girl shouts stop because it's too stimulating, you can just stop thrusting but try the less stimulating methods I mentioned earlier. Don't stimulate the clitoris anymore, it'll be uncomfortable, but the vaginal opening is fine. Also the breasts' G-spot (if you don't understand, read my squirting girl's self-account). At this time, areas that weren't originally sensitive zones will become very sensitive.
Another most unforgettable bad experience was a guy saying: Hey! You're not wet yet, help me lick it wet before putting it in you. This guy left a deep impression. I was going to continue dating him, but his behavior made me feel he was a very selfish guy. If the girl isn't wet, it's because the guy didn't try hard enough. Why should I still have to serve him? So we broke up not long after. It wasn't because his bed skills were bad, although they really weren't great, but I felt the lack of manners was the main reason.
Also, ejaculating completely without warning. Although I might not have orgasmed yet, I know guys want to cum and might not be able to hold it, but saying something makes the girl feel more involved, rather than just a tool for releasing desire! I like when guys say before cumming, I'm going to cum, let's orgasm together! I'm going to give you all my cum. This makes me very excited. Just like MAGGIE said she likes guys moaning, I also love hearing it, but don't say dirty words (remember, no matter how excited the girl is and says you can cum inside, you can't, unless she's in the safe period. Respect and equality are the foundation of a relationship and also the key to the next perfect sex.)
I met a guy who was 183 cm, but his dick was only thumb-length, like a small glue bottle for crafts, do you understand? So height and dick size really have no relation. Indeed, big and thick is important, but I've also met examples where big and thick didn't make me very comfortable, so technique is still the most important. Do you expect to have superhuman stamina at 30-40?
Guys start declining after 25, but that's when girls' desires get stronger! What I hate most is some guys like to emphasize their natural gifts but have terrible technique, thinking they only need to thrust thrust thrust, and because they have good talent, no need for later effort.
The guys who made me squirt weren't very big, but they didn't rely entirely on dick thrusting to make me squirt. Both guys' sizes were around 12-13 cm, normal thickness. One was a bit bigger, 15 cm. He could make me squirt just by thrusting, and his foreplay wasn't long, but if compared, the one with superb technique mentioned below still made me more comfortable.
Let me talk about one with great technique. His talent was average, duration short, even couldn't thrust very fast, could only thrust fast for a few dozen seconds. I think if he didn't stop, he might cum in less than ten minutes, but his strength was that when he knew he was about to cum, he would pull out and rub my pussy. I don't know about other girls, but when I'm being thrust, my pussy keeps pushing outward, like pushing the guy out. When he suddenly pulled out, because the outward pushing force suddenly lost resistance, my water sprayed out. After I squirt, my vagina becomes very tight. I often hear people say girls get looser the more you thrust during sex, or too much water, too slippery reducing friction. I don't know if that's true, but mine doesn't. The water was already all over the bed. My boyfriend was once squeezed out by me and went soft, sorry about that. So at this time, a penis that's not too thick or big still feels super good to me.
I really like the doggy style position, letting the girl lower her whole body, hips raised high, easier to hit the G-spot, and doggy can go very deep, very hard, and very fast. Missionary position, you can try letting the girl lie on her side, one leg on the guy's shoulder, one leg pressed under the guy's foot, this can also go deep and easily hit the G-spot.
A girl's erogenous zones and sensitivity need to be developed. Many of my friends in their first sexual experiences, even the first few years, never had an orgasm. It's not necessarily because the guy's technique or talent is bad, it's just that the body needs to get used to certain sensations.
Next, let's talk about the 69 position. 69 is of course great, but honestly many girls may not like it, because usually in 69 the girl is on top, and when the pussy is being stimulated she's already weak all over, let alone maintaining the prone position, it's very difficult, not to mention giving the guy oral. This way she can't focus on enjoying. I prefer the guy serves the girl well first, then switch. Before inserting, some girls might already be wet, so use the penis dipped in the girl's saliva just now to rub well at the vaginal opening, then start thrusting.
This way both parties' oral sex quality will be better. Indeed sometimes the girl's taste is stronger, so if you don't like it you can shower and start foreplay at the same time. Although the guy's genitals are outside, they don't necessarily have no smell. So empathy is important (but I did meet one that was very smelly, not the dick, but the hair part had a body odor-like smell, really almost made me vomit, but I still blew him. Although I didn't like the smell, can't be too selfish, but afterward I helped him blow less)
Finally, everyone really shouldn't mind size and duration. Treat your girlfriend well, be considerate of her feelings, make her love you to death, that's much better than having great technique and natural gifts but having one-night stands everywhere and thinking you're a woman's savior stud. Because love is a woman's best aphrodisiac. When I give oral to my beloved man, just his satisfied sounds and ecstatic expression make me wet as hell. No kissing or caressing needed~ Love alone can't make the body orgasm, but during sex, letting the other person feel your love, you can orgasm anytime. Once when I had my period and wanted to do it, the other person wanted to lick me, I said I have my period, but he said it would hurt if dry, so he still licked my clitoris and the surrounding area. I was stunned at the time. Although the licking time was only a few minutes, when he inserted I immediately orgasmed. This example many people might find hard to accept, even I myself find it strange. I'm not telling you to do this, but this is a kind of consideration. Considerate words, gentle actions, make people very happy. Remember, technique has its limits.
Girls will remember the guy who made her orgasm, and also remember the terrible guys. Which one to be depends on your own efforts!
Second step, use prone position riding on her body, hold the penis outside the pubic area and stroke a few times, let the lubricant get on the penis, then you can slowly insert, don't rush. After inserting all the way, hug her and whisper sweet words in her ear, then ask if she wants a few thrusts. If she says yes, you can start moving. Your chance to perform has come. Remember not to get too excited, otherwise there's no follow-up. You must control yourself.
Third step, have her use her own hands to lift and spread her thighs to both sides. Use a kneeling position. Tell you, posture is very important, otherwise the woman won't enjoy orgasm. Also don't insert too deep, shallow thrusts are enough. One after another, forming a rhythm. Don't thrust hard, it's meaningless, and women won't like it.
Fourth step, also the most critical. Through the above shallow thrusts, the woman definitely isn't satisfied yet. So use your hand to touch the clitoris while thrusting and touching. Remember to use saliva to lubricate your fingers to touch the clitoris. There are two techniques here, and the method differs for each woman:
The first is to gently insert, during the insertion process touch the clitoris, must touch. Insert very slowly. After inserting all the way, hold it there, then touch the clitoris, then gently and slowly withdraw. Repeat this process. At this time the woman has reached optimal state. You can continue thrusting, control the force yourself. Control the time a bit longer. This is also the hardest time to control, because when the woman reaches orgasm you'll feel the vagina contracting. If you feel the vagina contracting, keep continuing to insert, insert deep, for a longer time, until ejaculation. That woman will never forget you in this life. If you can't control it, stop for a while then continue, repeat several times. This is the first method.
The second is to speed up, touch while thrusting. Don't insert deep before the woman orgasms. Only when the woman orgasms can you thrust hard and deep, because if too deep before the woman orgasms it will hurt, and if too deep you'll lose control and ejaculate. Key points are as follows:
1) Spread the woman's thighs wider, arch the upper body up. When orgasming, she can hook your neck with her hand, and you can thrust hard and deep.
2) When touching the clitoris, fingers must be lubricated, then lightly touch in coordination with thrusting speed. Must touch lightly.
3) Let the penis have enough time to stay and rub inside the vagina. From start to finish, estimate 40 minutes. Can you persist? Regarding building confidence in sex life for women with mild sexual frigidity. If female friends lack confidence in themselves, believe the following methods will help you.
‧Learn to love your own body, especially those distinctive features like hair, hands, eyes, breasts, legs, etc.
‧View your sexual characteristics as normal things: you were born with sexuality, this is the most natural thing.
‧Be honest with your partner: enhance your relationship, disclose your obstacles to him, especially the parts you find hard to accept yourself.
‧Learn "sexual selfishness": Traditionally women always put others' pleasure first. You should try to focus on your own feelings during sex.
‧Express your feelings: During sex, allow yourself to move, speak, even moan.
‧Believe in the effectiveness of contraception: Choose a contraceptive method you can fully trust and feel comfortable with.
‧Full communication: Form a communication method and terminology acceptable to both you and your partner.
‧Discover your preferences: Through sexual fantasies, masturbation, and experimentation, discover the sex styles you like. Reject what you don't like, accept what you like.