While sitting bored at 711 drinking soy milk
Let me write about the hookup mindset.
Often, we hear both men and women
complain about the other person's poor conditions or bad performance
In such cases, don't rush to review the victim first
After all, actual situations can vary greatly
It's hard for us to make an "absolute" judgment
So in this post, I'll share my own mindset and approach
Psychologically, I've always advocated
doing your own SWOT assessment before hooking up
First, understand what your strengths are
where the opportunities lie, and where the threats come from
Finally and most importantly, what your weaknesses are
Believe me, if you can't list your own flaws
either you're a perfect person
or you're just an arrogant, overly narcissistic guy
It's not hard to talk about your strengths
But why is it important to point out your flaws?
Because ordinary netizens usually notice your flaws at first glance
Only your lover sees your strengths first
That's called being love-brained, seeing through rose-colored glasses
So when you truly understand how flawed you are
you'll realize whether you have the right to "choose" someone
Or, if the other person is even willing to hookup with you
it's already like a goddess descending from heaven, and good people live in peace
If you get this, how could you still complain about the other person?
Conversely, if you really have few flaws and plenty of strengths
Bro, eating this badly means you must really hate yourself (?)
Walking down the street you'd be a heartthrob
The best good guy and fuck buddy in your colleagues' eyes
Please, with conditions this good, don't waste yourself on online hookups.
That's my mindset before hooking up
What about the approach?
The mindset for the approach is simple—it's about operating in the opposite direction.
Ignore her flaws and focus on amplifying her strengths!
If she's not pretty but has a great body, why look at her face while fucking her?
If her tits are huge but her belly is big too, just focus on sucking and rubbing her tits—why play with her stomach?
If she's soft like cotton candy with tiny tits like an airport runway, but her face is as beautiful and sexy as sister Zhilin, then why miss the closest chance you'll ever get to sister Zhilin in this lifetime?
Remember, look at her strengths and ignore her flaws.
That way you'll complain a lot less!
If you ask me, what if you can't see any of her strengths?
Then don't fucking hookup with her!
Don't go for it just because your dick is itchy
Then after you're done and clear-headed, start complaining about how ugly or fat she is
Fuck that—if you're gonna fuck her, don't complain
Otherwise it just shows how low your character really is.
That's all, just my personal sharing
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